Saturday, November 04, 2006

FOLLOW-UP TO THE LONELY BLOG POST BELOW or THANK YOU

Dear Everyone:

Thanks for the thoughtful comments and advice in response to the post below. It's nice knowing that not only are people concerned with the (dire) state of my (nonexistent, ahem) lovelife but so many others are also going through much of what I'm experiencing (we're buttonholes on a sweater that's lost all of its buttons...or something...this calls for another ahem).

Still, I find it very interesting that most everyone read my confession to loneliness as being a desire to get married. Yes, I'd like to get hitched someday but not without first taking the time to build a solid relationship (something that my mother simply can't understand). I'm lonely for companionship. I want someone to be as interested in getting to know me as I am in getting to know him.

I'm not sure I'm making sense since I have a headache and am very sleepy at the moment. Perhaps I'll try to further elucidate later tonight or tomorrow.

In the meantime, thanks again for your interest. Seriously.

SABILA

13 comments:

fed up chick said...

Just call him. I swear to God you two are going to drive me to drink. Especially him. His energies are better spent elsewhere, I think. But he's very stubborn, always has been.

SabilaK said...

Ah, do I know you fed up chick?

SabilaK said...

Anonymous: I hate you a little bit.

SabilaK said...

Fedup chick: I have no idea what you're talking about, by the way. I'm afraid you may have already hit the bottle.

SabilaK said...

I so deleted anonymous' comment. Jerk ass.

heartbroken said...

I was attached once to someone, and that person hurt me sooo much. It is painful, very painful. I will never again get attached to someone. I know I am lonely, but I guess I should find someone just to fill in a void or something, but I will never get attached. I think people should really have an idea of what type of person they want to get involved with. I like geek/nerdy guys, but even the geek I like betrayed me. It is a shame...

Priyavadan said...

to get things straight, atleast I didnot think/feel that you had a desire to get married. I say that because I look for companionship too which my parents don't seem to understand (all of us are in the same boat). They are visiting me right now after 3 years and are already adamant about me getting married. As you would agree I ponder too; How the bloody hell can you marry someone without knowing them?

heartbroken:

I was attached once to someone, and that person hurt me sooo much. It is painful, very painful. I will never again get attached to someone.

learn to get over people you were attached to at one point of time.

Cocaine said...

You have quite an audience i must say.
you know what, you have all the right to take the course of action that you have taken. Its your life and you should at least be able to choose a life partner of your liking, someone who is not a compromise to situation or social needs.
Think of the lul right now as a precursor of the wonderful times that life has in store for you.
Good luck!

terra shield said...

I can't say much about being forced to get hitched by the parents because they havent being breathing down my neck. But they have hinted.

The thing is regardless of how the situation is, I think that 'the getting to know another person' process is the most important.

People are interesting, but that doesn't make them less dangerous.
Good Luck!

DC Girl said...

sabila...i hear ya.

=) hope you feel better

Anonymous said...

It sucks being lonely when you actually like being alone, but to fit in with society you have to be with someone.

Ahriman said...

Pssh. It's so much more fun to be single and moaning about it to the whole world than to be taken (and that itself sounds so final: taken). Face it, you love the mock self-pity, the legions of male fans of your self-flagellating blog and all that it exudes, a miasma of availability. And it's all fake, the only person you clearly want more than anything is yourself. I should know, I'm like that myself.

SabilaK said...

Ahriman: I often woo myself with flowers, dinner and a movie and then, when I drop the "r" (short for relationship, know what I mean), word, I make sure to hightail it out of there, leaving me wondering, "What the hell?!"

I kid. There's some--and by "some," I actually mean "a lot"--of truth to what you have to say. I am incredibly fond of myself. However, I think I've been doing quite the opposite of exuding a miasma of availability.