Tuesday, October 31, 2006

WHY LOVE BLOWS

Have you even been in love? Horrible, isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up this whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...

You give them a piece of you. They don't ask for it. They do something dumb one day like kiss you, or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so a simple phrase like "maybe we should just be friends" or "how very perceptive" turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a body-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.

Rose Walker in Sandman: The Kindly Ones by Neil Gaiman

True, isn't it?

16 comments:

Priyavadan said...

but you know as Oscar Wilde once said..the secret of life is to appreciate the pleasure of being terribly terribly deceived. :)

Anonymous said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_aw0xTbjHjk

HeatherF said...

Love may hurt, but when you find your one true love, your soul mate - it doesn't hurt... All you feel is numb and happy. Just remember Love always Prevails.

No Stage Necessary said...

that's a lie. arranged marriage prevails.

Chris said...

anonymous should be banned. Posting Paula Abdul videos is criminal. My gullible self is in pain from having followed that link.

As for this "love" business...it's completely irrational. Yet, it's glorious and blissful and horrible and excrutiating. That's just the way it is. But life is kinda boring without it. It's good to hope on the rollercoaster once in a while (no innuendo intended). Some of the rides only make your head hurt and your stomach churn and they make you want to vomit. Others are indescribably exhilarating.

Crankster said...

Interesting balance: the slow-building, stable love of your parents versus the intense, killing love of infatuation. Maybe Western society has it wrong?

terra shield said...

Despite the negative message, I find the words to be soothing...

mAn[S]o0r said...

quite true... love sucks :@

passion said...

doesnt stop anybody from loving; cos the hurt is worth it - Love is great!

Anonymous said...

My younger sister said something to me last week...Love is your family, everything else is infatuation...
Love sucks when the person you care about doesn't.
Can you live without love? It's up to you

justifiably_vertical said...

(crys because he misses some sooooo bad)
I totaly agree, love sucks. I used to think it was worth it but it isn't...it just sucks.

Anonymous said...

No wonder Love and War are always compared...
All is fair in Love and War
Love is like War: It's easy to begin but hard to end
Screw that shit!

DC Girl said...

VERY true...but at the same time. I smile and say to myself 'you're not the one' and move on and am hopeful that MAYBE...JUST MAYBE the one who is supposed to be with me. the one who will not give up on me will come along.

chin up darling. if he doesn't want you; there must be something wrong with *him*. Remember that.

OldSchoolKlingon said...

We are continuoualy brought back to the question- What is love? Is it something we have created to be new and exciting, and thus we feel that it must be a labor and a burden to be true? Does the lover feel that they must put themself in a position of pain to live life, believing truly that it is greater to have loved and lost than to never have loved before, and so pursues loves that seem to demand to be ineviatbly lost?

Cocaine said...

much like every thing thats pure, excessive amounts or complete absence of, love can truly be painful
It should be mixed with other roles and emotions to taken in bareable doses.

Maritza said...

When it's reciprocated, there's nothing like it but when it's not returned...well, I'd rather die.